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"I am a good man, but not exactly a good person. My interest in any woman does not last for more than a week."
—Xi Men to Xiao You[src]

Xi Men (Chinese: 西門; pinyin: Xīmén) was a member of the F4 with his best friends, Dao Ming Si, Mei Zuo, and Hua Ze Lei. Like his friends, he attended Ying De Academy and was the heir to a rich and powerful family. He was particularly noted for being a playboy. While helping Si's relationship with Dong Shan Cai, Xi Men developed a friendship with Xiao You.


Early life

Xi Men was born in 1980[3] to a wealthy family.[4] He met his best friends, Dao Ming Si, Mei Zuo, and Hua Ze Lei, during kindergarten. Around the same time, they met Teng Tang Jing who was three years older. She helped Lei when the boys were unable to due to their young age.[5] Xi Men's immediate family consisted of his parents and elder brother. His home life was strained, due to his father's infidelities. His brother later left the family.[6]

High school

Xiao Geng says goodbye to Xi Men

Xi Men: "Everyday I practice my motto "once in a lifetime.""
Xiao Geng: "What's "once in a lifetime"?"
Xi Men: "Didn't I explain it to you? The Japanese say that if you miss that "very moment", you may never have the chance to experience it again."
— Xi Men tells Xiao Geng about his motto[src]

In high school, Xi Men began "play[ing] around with girls whom [he] knew nothing but their names." Xiao Geng, his childhood friend, was the only girl that he treated as a friend. He began having feelings for her, but quickly suppressed them by sleeping with other girls. Xiao Geng asked him to meet her at a certain building. However, he did show up, hoping "nothing will change." The following morning, Xiao Geng met him at his house to say "goodbye". She later sent him a letter detailing her feelings. About a year later, Xi Men saw her from a distance with a guy.[6]


By the time Xi Men and his friends were in college, they were known as the F4. The name, not given by themselves, is an abbreviation of "Flower 4." They controlled the school and were allowed to do as they pleased, due to their powerful fathers. Additionally, they issued red slips to those who opposed or annoyed them. Ah Shu, for example, stood up to the F4 and received a red slip. He was then bullied until he dropped out.[4]

Meeting Shan Cai

Xi Men with Xiao You at Jing's birthday party

Xi Men: "Have we met before?"
Xiao You: "No, it's our first meeting."
Xi Men: "I wouldn't forget such an adorable girl."
— Xi Men flirts with Xiao You at Jing's party[src]

The F4 became acquainted with Dong Shan Cai, when she stood up to Si on behalf of her friend. She received a red slip shortly thereafter. Later, Xi Men was amused by Shan Cai "declaring war" on them. He also agreed with Mei Zuo that Si would be unable to "handle her." A couple days later, the guys were surprised when Shan Cai ran up and punched Si.[4] Some days later, Shan Cai was mad at Si and yelled at him that she was a virgin. He thought that she was interested in him, leading Xi Men to say "Aren't you reading too much into it?" A couple days after that, he and Mei Zuo called Shan Cai over to their picnic. She asked them about Jing, so they told her about their childhood with her. Jing arrived back from France the following day. The F4 greeted her joyfully. A day later, Lei protected Shan Cai from bullies which then angered Si. Xi Men ran after him to try and calm him.[5]

Later, Si brought Xi Men and the others on a cruise around Taiwan. Soon bored, Xi Men wished that he had brought a girl along. At a party that night, Xi Men danced with Shan Cai who had tagged along with her friend, Chen Qing He. The following night, everyone was awoken by Si. He invited them to eat sashimi on deck. Back at school, Si asked him and Mei Zuo about seeing Shan Cai and Lei together. He then became enraged when Qian Hui and Bai He showed him a video. Xi Men tried to calm him, but was unable to.[7] At Jing's birthday party, Xi Men flirted with Shan Cai's friend, Xiao You, but agreed to stay away from her at Shan Cai's insistence. Xi Men later said goodbye Jing and Lei at the airport. Jing was returning to France, while Lei decided to go after her.[8]

After photos of Si and Shan Cai were posted, Xi Men and everyone else thought they were dating. Xi Men and Mei Zuo teased Si and asked him about his night with her. The two later attempted to comfort Si, who believed Shan Cai had cheated on him.[9] The incident was cleared up and Xi Men went back to teasing the couple as usual. Following Lei's return from France, the F4 and Shan Cai went on vacation to Okinawa. Si suddenly went back to Taiwan. He later told Xi Men and Mei Zuo that he saw Lei and Shan Cai kissing.[10]

Si's exit and return

Xi Men and Mei Zuo with Zhuang after the game

Xi Men: "I envy him. I, for one, can never love a woman so much."
Mei Zuo: "You can, but you're running away from it."
— Xi Men and Mei Zuo discuss Si's love for Shan Cai[src]

Si forced Lei out of the F4 and replaced him with Chen Qing He. Xi Men and Mei Zuo both refused to acknowledge Qing He as a member of the F4. Si then attempted to expel Lei and Shan Cai, but Dao Ming Zhuang proposed a solution. They split into two teams of three with Xi Men and Mei Zuo on Si's side against Lei, Shan Cai, and Qing He. Si's team almost won the basketball match, however, Si gave up at the last second. After the match, Si decided to leave for New York. The F4 said goodbye to him at the airport.[11]

Once Si returned to Taiwan, the F4 went to greet him at his home. They spent most of the night waiting, before realizing that Si had gone to see "someone important" to him, aka Shan Cai. The following day, Xi Men teased Si about spending the night at Shan Cai's house. Xi Men and Mei Zuo later urged Si to apologize Shan Cai, after he offended her several times.[12] Si and Shan Cai later went missing. After finding Si, he went to save Shan Cai from her kidnappers, despite his friends wariness about him going alone. They visited him at the hospital and played a joke on Shan Cai by pretending Si had died. Xi Men, Mei Zuo, and Lei then left to beat up Si's attackers at his request.[13]

Supporting Si and Shan Cai

Xi Men, Lei, and Shan Cai at Si's birthday party

"We want to woo He Yuan Zi, so that she will stop harassing Si. Dao Ming Si created lots of misunderstandings. Maybe it's time for us to help Si solve his problem."
—Xi Men and Mei Zuo decide to seduce Xiao Zi to help Si[src]

Xi Men, Mei Zuo, and Lei went to Shan Cai's house to pick her up for Si's birthday party. They then helped her choose a nice dress from Zhuang's closet. At the party, they attempted to lie about Shan Cai's background to Si's mother, Dao Ming Feng, who quickly saw through it. They helped Shan Cai and Si escape the party. Later, they warned Si about his mother possibly trying to break him and Shan Cai up. Feng proved their suspicions right, when she arranged Si's engagement to heiress He Yuan Zi. Xi Men and Mei Zuo tried to help Si by taking her on a date. Their attempt to seduce her failed.[14]

Si began dating Xiao Zi, despite Xi Men and Mei Zuo's confusion about him bending to mother's arrangement so early. A few days later, the couple went their separate ways.[15] After Shan Cai's parents moved away, Xi Men, Mei Zuo, and Lei checked up on her at her home. Feng made an appearance just a few minutes after them. They tried to stand up for Shan Cai, but were silenced by Feng again. Shan Cai ended up holding her own against Feng, who promptly left. Xi Men and the others offered his support to Shan Cai, when she declared that she would not "concede defeat" to her. After Shan Cai started working at Si's, Xi Men and Mei Zuo encouraged Si to make a move. They later gave him advice, when they began dating.[16]

Helping Xiao You

Xi Men and Xiao You during their "date"

Xiao You: "No, I don't want to see him. Why do you want to look him up?"
Xi Men: "I can't put up with boys who bully girls. Since he thinks he's a ladykiller, we'll deflate his arrogance. Come with me, we'll show him what it is to be a real man."
— Xi Men decides to humiliate Zhong Ze[src]

Xi Men found Xiao You crying and took her to have coffee. She informed him that her boyfriend Zhong Ze had left her for another girl. Xi Men then took Xiao You to get revenge on him. At a club, Xi Men began flirting with Zhong Ze's girl and asked her who would she rather date. When she agreed to date him, Xi Men brought out Xiao You and said he was in love with her. Zhong Ze, realizing Xi Men's plan, tried to hit him, but ended up getting beat up. The following day, Xi Men visited Xiao You and asked her on a date. The date was actually a way to show Shan Cai and Si how couples should behave. His plan nearly worked, but Shan Cai caught them listening at the hotel room door. Later that night, the F4 gathered to talk about Si's mother, who just returned to Taipei.[17]

A few days later, Shan Cai went missing, but Si refused to tell his friends about it. They became worried, because it seemed Si was "back to his old self." Xi Men and Mei Zuo organized a gathering to cheer up Si. Him and Xi Men began arguing, which lead to an exchange of blows. The next day, Xi Men declared that he would "sever his friendship" with Si. Mei Zuo and Lei calmed him down, and they began discussing Shan Cai. They decided to "get to the bottom of [the] matter". After speaking with Xiao You, Xi Men surmised that Feng was the root cause of Shan Cai's disappearance.[18] Qing He and Lei later retrieved Shan Cai. Lei then began pursuing her romantically. Si, seemingly alright with it, broke down crying in front of Xi Men and Mei Zuo.[19]

Xiao You pursuing him

Xiao You confesses her feelings to Xi Men

Xi Men: "What do you want me to do? Date you, kiss you, or bed you? If that's all, I can do them all."
Xiao You: "Sorry I slapped you. But you shouldn't have said all that."
Xi Men: "That's what I'm like. My interest in a woman would never last more than a week. What I just said is standard procedure. Xiao You, I don't deserve you. I can only be a one-week lover."
— Xi Men rejects Xiao You's confession[src]

Lei revealed to Xi Men and Mei Zuo that he was only pursuing Shan Cai to force Si to face his real feelings. He then left for Japan, after saying goodbye to his friends.[20] Sometime later, Xiao You met Xi Men at his school and confessed her feelings. He coldly rejected her on the spot. She persisted and gave him her number, requesting the "full package". Xi Men, initially at a lost for words, invited her to a hotel that night to scare her.[21] Xiao You revealed that she was going to move to Canada the following day. Xi Men held her in his arms, before leaving the hotel. He later went to Xiao You's former workplace and deleted several girls' numbers, while thinking of her.[22]

When Si went missing, Xi Men helped Mei Zuo search for him. At his house, Ms. Yu gave them an invitation to Si's and Xiao Zi's wedding. They regrouped at Shan Cai's home, where Lei joined the search. After receiving new details from Xiao Zi, the F3 decided to go rescue Si. They were aided by Yu Sao, but were unfortunately caught by Si's mother. The F3 called Si's sister to intervene in the situation.[22] Zhuang's words affected her mother deeply, leading to her finally leaving Si and Shan Cai alone. Sometime later, Xi Men receive a call from a girl and promised to meet her, a sign that he was back to his playboy nature.[23]

Xiao You's return

Xi Men hugs Xiao You

Xi Men: "Alright. Looks like you'll go on nagging me until I open up. I thought I'd keep it deep in my heart forever. I used to like a girl. When I was about to graduate from high school, that's probably the time I've truly loved a girl."
Xiao You: "Did you tell her?"
Xi Men: "When I realized everything, the spark was already gone. The only thing I regret is... I stood her up."
— Xi Men tells Xiao You about his first love[src]

Xiao You returned to Taiwan to see Xi Men. He was happy to see her, but became irritated when Mei Zuo suggested that he had feelings for her. That night, he and Xiao You had a fight about his playboy nature. Xiao You believed he was "hurting [him]self" by flirting with all those women. Prompted by the exchange, Xi Men began telling her about his first love, Xiao Geng. Xi Men expressed a deep regret about not seeing the thing Xiao Geng intended for him to see. Days later, Lei asked him about his feelings for Xiao You, though he dodged the question. Later that night, Xiao You found him and brought him to the top of a building. Xi Men saw a sign in the distance, reading "Xi Men, my love", which was the thing Xiao Geng wanted him to see.[6]

Physical appearance

Like the rest of the F4, Xi Men was considered handsome. He himself was particularly confident about his good looks. He had thick, black hair landing just above his shirt collar. Xi Men had round, dark brown eyes, which were framed by his wire-rimmed glasses. He later stopped wearing glasses. He had a distinct style, often dressing in a preppy clothes which included khaki pants, sweater vests, button-down and polo shirts.

Personality and traits

Despite being a playboy, Xi Men was respectful and courteous toward women. He also believed violence towards women was wrong. Nevertheless, Xi Men dated many different women and never kept a steady girlfriend. His attitude about dating was influenced by his father's infidelities, causing Xi Men to lose faith in love. His relations with women sometimes caused him trouble, including dealing with angry boyfriends. Xi Men was able to handle them though, being skilled in fighting. He was also a good basketball player, but typically disliked physical exercise which he called "boring" and a "waste of energy."

Behind the scenes

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See also

Meteor Garden (2001-02) characters
Main characters

Dao Ming Si | Dong Shan Cai | Hua Ze Lei | Mei Zuo | Xi Men | Ye Sha

Supporting characters

Ah De | Ah Lun | Ah Mei | Ah Song | Ah Yuan | Aisa | Bai He | Chen Qing He | Da Xin | Dao Ming Feng
Dao Ming Zhuang | He Yuan Zi | Li Zhen | Mi Mi | Sha Ge | Shan Cai's father | Shan Cai's mother | Teng Tang Jing
Qian Hui | Xi Men's father | Xi Men's mother | Xiao Geng | Xiao Shun | Xiao You | Xin Xin | Ya Men | Yi Lin
Yin Xiao Qiao | Ms. Yu | Zhang Xiao Hong

Minor characters

Ah Shu | Ah Xiang | Ah Yan | Aisa's mother | Dao Ming Cheng | Gao | Jing's parents | Liu
Liu Shu Hao | Mai | Mei Jia | Mei Zuo's mother | Principal | Professor | Qing Yong | Thomas | Wang Xiao Long
Xiao Touh | Xiao You's father | Xiao You's mother | Xu Shao Yang | Yu Tian | Yuan Zi's father
Yuan Zi's mother | Zhong Ze